And the weekend starts.

It’s going to rain all weekend. On Friday, Edda, Jeremy and I went to Friday Night vibes where it was movie night and the voting was Spiderman and the Spiderverse, the live action The Little Mermaid and a Will Ferrell movie called Kicking and Screaming. We voted for the Will Ferrell movie which is the only one we haven’t seen and we had pizza and candy and stayed for about 30 minutes (enough to enjoy Mike Ditka) and then headed out back home.

And then as I was getting Edda ready for bed, she felt very warm – so we took her temp and it was 99-100. What the (*A#^@? Honestly, it’s her third fever in as many weeks. No other symptoms, we cancelled childcare for today and gave her a Motrin and put her to bed. Jeremy – is also not feeling 100% still – his watch tells him so and he doesn’t feel up to his normal workout routine, soooo….I’m like it’s longish covid (even though no one has tested positive for covid). It’ a long linger. Edda woke up this morning perfectly fine with no fever! I don’t know. Who knows.

A few Friday nights ago, we went to an art reception for the artist who is now the artist in residence at Main Street, and a friend saw this on Instagram and mentioned it to me. I hadn’t even seen this photo, but I remember taking it! We are looking good.

Home renovations.

And so it begins. The college bills are done and now we are embarking on home repairs and maintenance. Because it our house was relatively new when we moved in, we could ignore it for a while, but now the cows have come home to roost, the bagpiper needs to be paid and we need to break some legs and bark up the right tree. (see squirrel)

This is a tricky part of marriage for us – managing home repairs, but I think we can do it – after 25 years, I think we won’t get divorced over it, but it is tricky territory for us. Jeremy and I like each other very much and respect each other’s opinion, but we approach problems in very different ways which boil down to: Jeremy is a theorist and loves possibility. I’m an experimentalist and I love final decisions and closure. Therefore, Jeremy wants to run through all the possibilities and voice them (for a long time), but hesitates to take action because he doesn’t know which one of his thousand ideas are the best and I get exasperated and want to narrow to a final decision quickly and get it done, but hesitate to get it done because I hate spending the money. Jeremy has a done a lot of research and looks to innovation. I’m a late adopter with lots of hands-on home repair experience. Neither of us particularly like calling the home repair professionals.

So today the electrician is here installing high voltage outlets for a non existent EV car and also for an induction stove that Jeremy has wanted for years. So he’s banging away in the garage right now. But while he’s removing some drywall – he noticed leaking pipes including the water main that brings water in from the street! The water main! Yikes. So now we have to find a nice plumber who will save us from our leaky water pipes. I hope the entire house doesn’t have leaky pipes, but we can’t really tell that unless we rip out all the drywall. Which we aren’t going to do. Yet.


Beautiful days – Elka wanted to spend the day sunbathing on the front lawn. It took a lot of persuasion for her to go back into house. Elka knows what’s good.

This year, I tied all our peonies with string so they don’t droop down at the first rain. These are Alice’s peonies – and they are gorgeous.

I’m also entertaining myself with indoor plants that I’m propagating from plants that I find along my outings. This is a hoya plant that just put out a new leaf.

This is a “special plant” – a variegated Christmas Cactus that I got shipped to me and lost one of its leaf, so I’m hoping it will live.

This one needs a chopstick to hold it upright.

A string of pearls from Kristen’s string of pearls (I just facetimed her and her plant is suffering and half of it died!).

Pancakes and bacon.

It was a lovely weekend here – nice (cold!) weather and good company / activities. I asked Jeremy to make Edda’s pancake breakfast for me for Mother’s Day because we weren’t able to schedule Edda’s birthday party this year. And we enjoyed it together. I’m lucky to have these kiddos in my life. And to Jeremy who is my indispensable teammate in parenting. I love you all.

Lots of Edda and guitar and weightlifting.

On Thursday night, I went to the MCPS kickoff meeting for Edda’s transition year, meaning that these are the people who are going to help me find Edda a grown up situation when she graduates from high school in 2025. It’s very complicated and emotional and kind of word-of-mouth-y which I kind of hate, but it’s also OK because I’m kind of determined to find Edda a place to live apart from us by the time she’s in her early 30s. The funding for Edda is shifting a lot right now, the state used to pay directly for services (traditional funding model) that Edda would sign up for, but now, families are given a lot more freedom in how her day will look (self-directed funding model), but it essentially means that Edda is like a small corporation in which she hires/fires staff and programs. Which means that in reality, I run payroll and HR and stuff and find appropriate things for Edda to do, etc. So this night, I tasked myself to talking to vendors who provide day services and will take the self-directed funding. These are the same vendors who did provide traditional funded programs, but are just now transitioning to accept self-funded funds and there are hiccups (like not getting paid), but as time passes, I think it’ll be fine. I’m not really worried about finding a program that will take Edda from 9-5, I’m more focused on this apartment building I intend to build in the next 10 years with about 4-10 of her friends with staff and programming that I invision happening so I can take a long nap everyday and not worry too much about what Edda is doing. Because I like to take naps.

On Friday, I went to a noon presentation at Main Street about how to incorporate your values into the workplace. Again, a bit of networking and free food and it was nice. And then afterwards, there was a meeting with her Adult Life Planning person from her autism waiver program. There are other little social things that I did because I like to do them, but it’s really hard for me to schedule these things and be outgoing and then not come home and need a nap. I really should just turn back to work and work on some patents quietly and quickly because I have a block of a couple of hours, but it’s really hard for me to do.

Jeremy’s spent the week recovering from this really long cold. He and Edda are both like 87% well, but not 100% and it’s been dragging on for weeks now. Never terrible, but never really good. He’s also had a hard week at work in which he questions everything he’s ever done and ends the day exhausted and lying down on the couch. You know, this zoom thing is both good and bad. It’s great that we get to all work from home, but it’s also bad in the sense that building trust and friendliness in a group is really, really hard – even when everyone is kind of invested in that happening. I’ve been working with a zoom group in my new role at the office for over a year now, and it’s fine, but I know so so much less about these people than I would if we had spent a year in offices right next to each other. You lose so much.

Anyways, to divert his frustrations at his slightly ill body and his work situation, he’s been rearranging our gym – mounting TVs and fans directly to the walls. Moving things out of the way, ordering new flooring. This is totally ridiculous but we really enjoy our time in this space. It’s much less embarrassing because we are both into it and spend a lot of time working out here.

I’m also really enjoying my guitar lessons and slowly getting better and even better, getting to know people. I went to the performance this Saturday for a couple of hours. It’s really, really fun to watch people who are really really good at what they do. Also, one of the bass players is an olympic lifting coach (and intending to break some national lifting record for 70 year olds in December) and Jeremy’s into that so we are planning on starting to go to practices in the near future. They meet on Sundays at 10 am and I came home from the band performance and asked Jeremy if he wanted to go and I think I sprung it on him too quickly and he said – I gotta wrap my head around lifting around other people….lol. We’ll see how it goes. I’m excited to learn how to clean and jerk.

Pokemon walk.

I’m doing random things in the early evening, which are fun, but take me away from having dinner at the “regular” time. But it’s OK (I think). I actually think it’s OK to practice leaving the house after 6 pm. My favorite is starting to wind down the house at 7:30 which precludes going out at night.

I went out on a Pokemon walk with many, many people – but mostly with Noah.

Here we are near the Rockville metro. Also, I park at Noah’s house so I get to spend some time chatting with Tom before I head home. Elka also goes on these Pokemon walks and has a good time. 🙂