Weekend update.

Jeremy is having a great time in California – doing his thing. Actually, the most interesting thing (to me) is that he got invited last minute on a WORK BIKE RIDE. We’ve heard about these mythical rides – usually middle aged white men in the Bay Area do bike rides for meetings. Basically, it’s the new golf. Jeremy hadn’t been on one, but he finally did go on one and the person who hosted him is very fast. Jeremy remains fast, though he will say he’s slow these days, but not as fast as this other guy. (Jeremy quite admires this other guy, they had a good time, though Jeremy (I think) wasn’t thinking he’d ride so hard this trip). I’m quite busy here, work has seen some improvements over the last few weeks, a relief really, so that it a slight burden off of my shoulders.

Ginny and Megan have helped out a lot minding Edda for choir practice and a donor appreciation gathering that I needed to attend. I was telling Jeremy, sometimes I resent the constraints that Edda can place on my schedule and other times I’m slightly grateful – oh, I’m so sorry, I gotta leave because Edda needs to… or I have to go check on Edda. Or, I’d love to do that, but I can’t because I need to be with Edda. And then I can stay home, not do the brief remarks, peace out early, not go out to the activity and stay in my pajamas and then hang with Edda while we read a book or just nap.

The first day Jeremy was gone which was a Wednesday, I dropped off some homemade cookies (my favorite – oatmeal raisin with chocolate chips) and two watermelons midday to the Police Appreciation Day at the Izaac Walton league. (I had wondered out loud to Jeremy – do you think I should bring a knife and a cutting board? It was supposed to be lakeside – far from the kitchen , so I wasn’t sure if there was going to be cutting utensils there. But I also didn’t want to leave one of our kitchen knives lakeside all day in the random hope that it would be returned to us. And Jeremy said – it’s a gun club, Doris. Someone is going to have a big knife at the party. ) There was a signupgenius and I dutifully signed up (part of being a member includes 6 hours of volunteer time a year, and I figured this was an easy lift for me) – taking all the watermelon spots and 1/3 of the dessert spots. I show up 15 minutes early for the drop off and already the place was swamped with watermelons and cookies. I felt a little redundant. There were about 10 people there already setting up and they asked me if I was staying for the party and I laughed and said – no I need to go back to work. Remember that? When you did stuff in exchange for money? And they all laughed and said that perhaps I was running late for work. I’m totally ready to retire. If I stopped working, my time is already 100% accounted for, I’d hang out for six hours on a random Wed eating watermelon and cookies with friends.

So the thing that I’m trying to learn with the church thing is how to not have the need to have everyone like me. I really enjoy having people like me and most people do like me. But already, I had someone scold and taunt me in front of 15 people on Tuesday night. I got kind of weepy afterward when I think of for the next 2 years, anytime I get up to make any sort of neutral remark, this person is going to get up and basically be a bully to me in front of everyone makes me unhappy. The crazy thing is that I basically agree with this person, so it’s even weirder that I’m being harassed by a person that I AGREE with.

Let see – what else is interesting? Megan hung out with Edda on Saturday afternoon because I wanted to go to a thing and then afterwards I had dinner with Megan and Edda. Megan and I were in the middle of having a long conversation about everything – medication, buying habits, cats, summer and Jeremy had sent me a text. And I ignored it – I think I didn’t even realize that I had gotten it and then Jeremy was like….hmmmm, I wonder what Doris is up to? And then he checked the living room camera and realized that I was eating dinner with Megan and he overheard, briefly, our conversation and then was slightly mortified with himself and quickly turned it off and then was like – I guess Doris will text me later.

I got stuck on this connections puzzle and I texted Dave and he said – “I didn’t get purple, but I got blue first” which was enough of a clue for me to solve it. I just had to imagine myself thinking like Dave. lol.