I had an interesting conversation with Frank tonight. Honestly, I’m not sure I follow him all the time, but I do know that he thinks very differently than a lot of people out there. Anyways, one thing that he said stuck with me. He always tends to think about what his priorities are 10 years from now and tries to act accordingly. So right now, he’s 24, and he thinks about what his priorities would be at 34. Somewhere on the list would be, money, character, family (I’m guessing).
Of course, I can’t help but think about what my priorities are 10 years from now when I’m (oh god) 39. 😛 I would think character, family, money – in that order. I feel like I’m moving towards my character goals – growing and learning and experiencing life. I’m not sure I’m moving towards my family goals. Money, well, I feel like I’m moving away from that goal too since I have no money.
On the topic of getting married, Frank calls this issue “The Looming Deadline”. It probably applies more to women than men, but basically it goes like this: People hold out hoping to find “The One”, but when see that they are 32 and not likely to find “The One”, then they might relax their stringent requirements in order to get married. Why not just relax your requirements right now and avoid the fate that you’re setting yourself up for when you are 32? But people won’t do that and they walk knowingly into their least desirable outcome.
Am I doing this too? Choon says I’m too picky about women. But I’m not sure that Frank’s scenario applies in my case.