Wow, what a grumpy day – it seemed nice enough when we started, but it pretty much went downhill from breakfast. Jeremy didn’t get enough sleep (not because of Edda, just because he was preoccupied with work stuff), then Vince refused to eat breakfast, then Edda hated being at the dog park. Then the afternoon started, the gymnastics class went OK, but the ride home was a sea of grumpiness and tired complaints and then the afternoon went downhill with a failed paint and potato art project and a 2 hour stew that was started at 6 pm. Then Edda refused to go to sleep until 10:00 pm which means no alone time for me and Jeremy because we are totally beat. Goodnight! I’m going to bed.
To everyone, there are goog days and there are bad days. Sometimes, we have no controls about how days go. But, in general with set goals – no matter how difficult they may be, and how much energy required toward accomplishing them, any tiny success crawling toward accomplishing the goals, will generate tremendous satisfaction.
In accomplishing goals, it is quite difficult to measure them by hours, days or even months. But, in longer terms, the differences can be surprisingly pleasant. There is an old saying “Talent certainly helps but hard working is the key toward great success”.
Don’t let demanding events control oneself. But, one should be steering events as much as possible. All events, good or bad at the time, should have positive aspects somewhere, eventually.
This may help to control one’s grumpiness and toward a more less-worrying environments 🙂
Several years ago, when I had my laid-off noitice after more than 20 years servce, I was really sad. Even I did found a better job, my feeling in the next year or so was very blue. Nothing seemed to be right. I complained a lot. Finaly, I asked for help and saw doctors. One doctor told me that everything was in your brain. That meant I let my brain to feel that way. My GYM doctor told me that you were not to change the world. Only thing that you can do a favor to yourself was to change youself. After that, I always asked myself “Is this kind of life I want? How about my family? Other memebers? Does it effect my family?” Of couse, Daddy was deeply effected. He worried about me a lot. One doctor in Lousiana was very nice to me. I saw her once a week and she gave me some medicine. It worked and I knew the medicine was not a permanent fix. Gradually, I got rid of the medicine. Looking back, it was kind of waste. It was un-call for of this kind of suffering which effected the people close and around me. But everything has good sides. I have learned a lot from that: only me can control myself; just like people say “God Helps Those Who Help Themselvies”. Secondly, I have learned that the feeling of giving is much better than the feeling of receiving. Your grandmom always told me that “Husband is not you. Parents are not you. Kids are not you. Youself is you”. Everyone has to earn the happiness and peace. Whithout suffering and hard work, there is no happiness and peace.
Doris, you are very smart just like Daddy. I am not that smart, but working hard and never be too sensitive and calculated. I like Budda’s philosophy “What kind of input will get what kind of results (Outputs)”. In computer slang, that is “garbage in and garbage out”. Do some work both physically and mentally to keep busy are the best way to keep one’s mind peaceful and with no time left of picking small stuffs which are disturbing. The other method is to be considerate and do more for the people around or put my feet into other people’s shoes. For example, sometimes, I make a cake for the office colleagues once in a while. Every one is happy and I am happy too.
Well, here are several points that I would like to present here:
1) my comment is based on millions upon millions of bitter pills that I swallowed when I grew up. It was filled with oceans of sadness but not that hopelessness after all. It definitely wasn’t a same old, …, same old story from books.
2) Do more physically exercises.
3) Be more considerate to others, they have problems too.
4) Edda has a wonderful Mom and a wonderful Dad together with her loving brother. Not only that, she has everyone in the family behind her. No problem, just working on it.
I think Doris’s diplomatic language may have confused people. She said the whole family was grumpy, but mostly it was just me. I don’t quite know why it happened, but with a couple fitful nights of sleep thinking about work stuff, I got up the wrong side of the bed two days in a row. Suddenly stuff that usually doesn’t bother me (like having my head stepped on) started to seem really irritating. It turns out what I needed was a few peaceful hours, which I got on Sunday afternoon while the kids were at the babysitter’s place. We had a quiet lunch together, I had an extra cup of coffee and a short nap (very unusual for me) and with some other soothing influences I was back to my old self within 3 hours. We had a very nice end to the weekend with potato stamps to decorate trick or treat bags. Luckily the rest of the family has been quick to forgive and forget, so we are all back to normal, and ready for a fun Halloween tomorrow.