Okay Choon. Here it is since you asked for.
Who am I looking for?
I think first off, she has to grab my attention somehow. I tend to place people I meet into a context – basically I try to figure out what kind of people they are and put them into a predefined box. To get my attention, she has to do something that tells me that she’s either aware of her box or that she’s trying to step outside that box. It’s as easy as sitting down in a coffee shop and really listening to someone or turning her head to check me out or going out on 60 dates in 4 months. Something to grab me and say, “Hey this girl isn’t a regular X. She listens or she’s bold or she’s committed.” It shows a certain amount of free thinking and awareness. To me, it’s a sign of why she could be special – how she separates herself from the crowd. I suppose it’s that “Wow” moment.
Of course, it probably a bit hard to tell what that thing is going to be. At least it’s hard for you guys trying to set me up. Ha! It has to be there tho, or she’s just a regular girl.
Hrm. What can be more helpful? Confidence is sexy. Having some sass would be good too. A solid group of really good friends. Somewhat Social. A good hostess. Fiscally responsible. 🙂 Ha. I don’t really care about the biking, or whatever. It’s all really just fluft in way. That stuff is generally negotiable.
And Marrieds, if you want to set me up, please please don’t fall into the trap of setting me up with someone just cause we’re both single. There’s got to be a real reason that you’re hooking us up. Generally I think a good rule of thumb is, if you don’t think she’s super cool/special/datable, chances are that I won’t either. Quality baby. Quality. 😛